THE PORN PASTOR

I couple of weeks ago I mentioned Pastor Craig Gross of XXX Church on air and got a wave of responses from viewers.  Most were concerned about what he was doing, and that I would ‘endorse’ him.   Although I would never do what Craig does, I have no trouble endorsing what he is trying to do.  Gross has identified that pornography is a huge problem amongst men, non-christian and christian alike.   In a Promise Keepers Men’s Ministry survey of christian men, 59% admitted to being consumers of porn.  And as one speaker noted, “And the other 41% of you are lying.” Not entirely true, but in another survey a shocking 37% of pastors admitted to be users of pornography.

The Internet for all its positive uses is the major cause of epidemic porn consumption. There was a time when if you wanted pornography you needed to visit an adult book store or go some sleazy strip club where someone might spot you.  That alone was enough to keep the christian men away.  Today however, porn comes to you.  It is a $4.9B industry with over 4.2 million sites on the internet which accounts for 12% of everything on the net.

Internet Pornography Statistics
Pornographic websites 4.2 million (12% of total websites)
Pornographic pages 420 million
Daily pornographic search engine requests 68 million (25% of total search engine requests)
Daily pornographic emails 2.5 billion (8% of total emails)
Internet users who view porn 42.7%
Received unwanted exposure to sexual material 34%
Average daily pornographic emails/user 4.5 per Internet user
Monthly Pornographic downloads (Peer-to-peer) 1.5 billion (35% of all downloads)
Daily Gnutella “child pornography” requests 116,000
Websites offering illegal child pornography 100,000
Sexual solicitations of youth made in chat rooms 89%
Youths who received sexual solicitation 1 in 7 (down from 2003 stat of 1 in 3)
Worldwide visitors to pornographic web sites 72 million visitors to pornography: Monthly
Internet Pornography Sales $4.9 billion

Unless you are extremely diligent you cannot avoid it.  Gross (you’ve got to love the name) has determined he is going to help christian men get free from this plague. http://www.xxxchurch.com/ He has an online test to see if you have a problem.  BTW, if you have to take the test to find out, then you do.  He has a program that you can put on your computer as a safeguard.  Not only does it block the sites you should not visit but it will send a report to your designated people if you try to visit questionable sites.  Craig is not a hilarious speaker, but I did crack up when he suggested that making your mother one of your designated accountability partners was a sure fire way to beat the habit. (I think the pun is intended).  He sponsored a program called Porn Sunday that corresponded with Super Bowl Sunday and he recruited several high profile players as spokesmen against the prevailing battle men have with their flesh.  Here is one report where the female journalist is downright incredulous.

I met Craig a couple of months ago at a Promise Keepers men’s conference.  The two of us were on this year’s PK circuit and a lot of Canadian men heard his uncompromising message about how to walk free from this deadly trap that ensnares men, taints their view of women and sexuality, and often destroys marriages.  Don’t think for a minute that you can lust after other women and keep the home fires burning.  Jesus said that “…if look at another women with lust in your heart you are guilty of adultery.” Incidently, 17% of porn consumers are now women, so it is no longer just a male problem.

One thing Craig is doing which is fascinating are the Porn Debates.  He travels to university campuses with male adult movie star Ron Jeremy.   He has been in 2,000 adult films and slept with over 5,000 different women.  The two of them debate the subject in front of 100′s of young people.  Ron is for, while Craig is against just in case you haven’t been paying attention.  Here is a Nightline version of the debates.  I have included all 10 parts if you are so inclined… about an hour and half of material.  It is always important to know both sides of an argument before you take a stand on annything.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3dDXppgUpI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDZYEbrTD2g&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngIe2gqH5Zc&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hVgEMmRTSJA&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voFi6FPdU4E&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9bBlr0c9I0&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MxKo2bAsJcg&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUa-ilW3wn4&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSY859lsqGs&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a5j00SifV-c&feature=related

The part of Craig’s agenda that most people don’t get is his ministry to those in the porn industry.  He has printed a bible called Jesus Loves Porn Stars.  He sets up a booth at porn shows and hands out 100′s of these bibles.

His critics claim this is a compromise of the gospel.  Before we throw stones I would ask the age old question; What would Jesus do?   These are exactly the kind of people Jesus hung out with and the religious establishment criticized him for it.  The fact is, Jesus does love porn stars.  Could I do what Craig does?  No, I don’t think I would put myself in a place where I was surrounded by naked women and live sex acts.  But then, I am not called to that either.  Apparently Craig is.  I asked him about the temptation factor and keeping his eyes off the ‘subjects’.  He told me he takes his wife with him as a buffer when he goes to these things.  So he is trying to be careful.  One thing I am doing is praying for him, and so should you.  It is the ones on the front lines that are the first to be taken out.  Lord help him.

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61 Responses to THE PORN PASTOR

  1. Porn is prison says:

    Nobody is criticising Craig as a person or his intentions.
    But his wisdom on how to handle the stuff he’s dealing with is not what the Bible says to do. The Bible says to run from temptation, but he is living in and around his temptation.
    Why is it that no one has enough guts to back the Bible these days? Just go and read it and do what it says. It’s not rocket science. And it doesn’t kill a person to admit where they are wrong either.
    Craig is a nice guy. I like him. I just think he needs to take what the Bible says to heart. He’s letting his emotions direct him instead of the word of God.
    Jesus hung out with sinners of course. The worst sinners. But they came to Him. He didn’t chase them into a sex orgy.
    Jesus loves the person who He created and they were not created to be a pornstar.

  2. Mark Hughes says:

    Although I am quite certain that Jesus never would put himself in a compromising situation I actually think He did seek out the sinner. Everything the bible teaches us about evangelism is that we are to GO into the WORLD.
    I agree that Craig is very vulnerable in that environment but that does not necessarily equate to compromise or sin.
    He has stated some of his former tactics like the inflatable Wally the Wiener were not brilliant and he would not do them again. So he knows he has made mistakes. I for one am glad there is someone doing what he is doing and believe that he needs the support of the church not our criticism. But I repeat, I am glad it is not me, and… that boy needs our prayers.

  3. Porn is prison says:

    I’m glad he rethought that one, but I’ve seen a number of others he needs to rethink as well.
    So what is it when you have a person who has a temptation with porn. Then they go out and see what a joke xxx church makes out of it and instead of helping people it actually makes them see it as a laughing matter and voila they fall into sin.
    The Bible also says that we should not cause anyone to stumble. If this attitude causes people to stumble then it does have something to do with sin now doesn’t it? And I don’t hate you or Craig. I think you’re both good guys. I just don’t like people getting used to the idea that sin is some kind of joke.

  4. Isaac says:

    Hey, Porn is prison.

    Just to let you know, if you are part of the church, or at least in Winnipeg I would be happy to help you get free of this thing too. We have Overcomer’s in Christ at COTR and Christ used it and the people in it, to free me from my 16 year addiction. Porn truly is prison, and it’s only through Christ’s grace that we are set free. Titus 2:11-14.

    God bless you man.

  5. Isaac says:

    Oh yeah, it’s Wednesday’s at 7:00pm at the church.

    Also, thank you so much Pastor Mark for this blog. This is a battle that needs to be fought. For most addicts the party is long over and their addiction they go to for comfort has actually become their agony. Christ wants us to be free, but letting Him set us free is painful at times. But it’s so worth it!

  6. Donald G. Kemp says:

    Hi, I just wanted to put my two cents in on the matter if I could. I would be very inclined to agree with Pastor Marks assessment, and not because he’s an awesome pastor and a funny guy, but because he is following the truth here. The fact is, even in your own home you will not be free of temptation, even if you don’t get out of bed, you will not be free of temptation, the very thoughts we have can tempt us, whether natural or supernatural(and I firmly believe both occur). It is why we are told to make every thought captive to Christ. And I do get that it’s more dangerous to walk into that den of iniquity and make yourself more vulnerable, it is something I think we, at least those called on to, are to do. Think about it this way: Do we chastise, or cast judgment, in any way, shape or form, when those of us who are called to missions and evangelism in places where our very lives are at risk simply for speaking the truth of Christ? When they are persecuted, tortured, jailed, beaten, and killed, do we say they shouldn’t have gone there? Or that they were wrong or mistaken for doing so? No, we don’t. We applaud them, we pray for them, we provide help in any way we can. This is really not that different. Its a daily walk for a reason. That being said, each day, every day is a day you can walk in confidence when you walk with the Spirit, with Christ. And each day as those thoughts, those temptations are handed to Jesus, the walk gets easier, and more secure. Anyway, my two cents should stop here before it becomes 10 bucks.

    Have a good one, and in the words of Buckeroo Bonzai: Remember, where ever you go, there you are. God bless you and keep you all. Amen.

  7. Sally Young says:

    I, for one can testify that pornography played a big part in the destruction of my marriage. My ex-husband started viewing porno at his buddy’s and then it became a habit when he was away at our fishing cabin unbeknowns to me of course. It wasn’t long after that he decided that his 24yr marriage to me was a bit stale. He may have also been experiencing male menopause as well, so with that combination, our marriage was on a downward spiral.I don’t say that my role was innocent in my marriage breakup, as I am sure I played my part in it too; but the end result was that I could never measure up to his playmate fantasy’s. He is now lving out his fantasy life with his girlfriend..not happy mind you…but free! As for me, I am thankful that I don’t have to live under those false expectations any more and to me that is freedom!
    When I found out that my husband was into pornography, I tried to get help for us. eg marriage counsilling etc. I also read up on the effects of pornography and found out that it actualy changes the brains chemistry. It creates a “furrow” in the brain and after prolonged use the user cannot usually break free unless God intervenes.They only can think of pornograghy..a very scary thought, to think that your brain actually changes!
    I am all for people getting help to break this destructive controlling habit and whomever presents a way of doing that I am all for it. It is so destructive for our young men and women. The movie rating system promotes it and the fashion industry endorses it. The movie industry tries to seduce young boys under the guise of a PG13 rating. The fashion industry promotes scantily clad dress for our young women and it is pretty hard for a young man not to look at a young girl with barely anything on. A friend of mine who works at UofM says she is embararassed by what the girls are wearing these days.
    Our young people are being bombarded with this sexual message. It is an uphill battle that can only be won when we the church take a stand against it along with others like Craig Gross and Doug Weiss.It is possible that we may help some escape the snare of the devil.

  8. Betty says:

    I Praise you Jesus, for who you are.

    “When God looks down on us, He looks at JESUS in us [or me] and not at our sin… we are Gods beloved, because of Jesus in us [or me].
    I am Gods beloved.” by Joseph Prince.

  9. Porn is prison says:

    I think us men need to face the cold hard facts…we’re a bunch of perverts! I’m sure the ladies will love to hear this.
    Instead of men sitting in their little rooms depressed saying, I feel so guilty, I need someone to build my self esteem up after looking at porn, they should say, “I am a huge pervert! And a coward to boot! Instead of facing life like a man, I am watching naked ladies to make my ego feel better.” We need to man up and get the soothers out of our mouths!
    And another thing. Quit calling people religious who are sick of being in prison. You’re just too chicken to take it like a man, so you want everyone else to stoop to your level. Why don’t you get mad at yourself instead of blaming others?
    This is a general statement to men who like fooling themselves.

  10. Porn is prison says:

    Some men are trying and have failed, but are desperately wanting freedom. They do need grace. The above was for the woosies who make excuses for their sin.

  11. Isaac says:

    The question that was only slightly addressed is, what do we do about the porn problem?

    I hope I didn’t give a wrong impression in my last post that a person just needs to accept Christ’s grace and poof! They never look at it again. Out of the hundreds of stories I’ve heard I’ve only heard of 2 where they were instantly set free of porn.

    For the rest of us, it is a difficult battle.

    Like pastor Mark preached once about grace; the one side of the coin is the truth and the other is mercy. The truth is that Porn is despicable to God. It breaks all God’s laws about sexuality, but it also is responsible for huge damage to people. The vast majority of the women who “voluntarily” get into porn have been victims of sexual assault, most chronic victims. And there is also a large portion that are forced into it against their will. They are raped, forced drugs till addicted, threatened, their families are threatened. Also watching porn directly supports human trafficking. By using porn you are supporting immense evil. And God hates it.

    But knowing this is NOT enough to make a person quit. Many men will try to quit on their own. They’ll think, if I just try harder; grit my teeth more I’ll quit. It’ll last 2 weeks then back at it they are. They get cute and put a picture of Jesus as their background, make their password their wife’s name or something and the next day, there they are again.

    And that is why you need the second side of the coin. Mercy. You need to fully accept that Christ died for that. As immense as your sin is, it is not too much for Jesus! You are still His son and He loves you. You also need the mercy of other people. “Confess your sins to each other so that you may be healed.” James 5:16. I can tell you this with absolute authority, if you will not find someone, or a group to regularly confess to, I give you pretty much 0% chance of succeeding. If you could quit this thing on your own you would’ve by now.

    Personally for me I had to be confronted by God and my girlfriend in rapid succession in order to even begin recovery. I felt like God sat me down as a father would and with sternness said to me, “Now we’re dealing with this!” Yet I felt loved even in this. My girlfriend also showed me grace. She was hurt, but said, “what can I do to help you?” These confrontations were the best thing to happen to me in the end.

    So I guess to wrap up this long diatribe, I would suggest that a practical thing for a person in the problem to do is let God confront you, and then do what He says. He will undoubtly lead you to finding someone to confess to. Obey Him, do it. Find a Christ-centred recovery group, theirs more and more now. Also get a friend to set up a porn blocker for you, or even get rid of your internet. Really. It takes a real courageous man or women to deal with this completely.

    For a person who suspects or knows their mate is in the problem, the best thing you can do is to pray for them to be confronted by God and that they’ll do what’s required. Also I would suggest talking to your spouse about setting up a porn blocker on all your family’s computers and iphones/pods including theirs, and either you set the password, or you and your spouse both input half the password, that way you both have to be present to allow any site it may block. By their response you should quickly know if they struggle or not. Remember to have grace in your heart. Christ forgave you as much as them, and your goal should be to see them recover, not revenge.

    The best free blocker I’ve found is K-9 web protection. It’s totally free for personal (it costs $ for business) and works very well. It leads you set by step how to set it up. It’s available for PC, Mac and I devices.

    Also note that telling someone to “just stop” is ridiculous. I have heard stories like this. What do they think, “duh, oh I never thought of stopping, thanks for the advice.”

    Sorry for the long ramble, but I want to share the amazing thing Christ has done for me with others.

  12. Porn is prison says:

    I’m sorry if my comment sounded harsh. You’d know I am a gracious person if you knew me. I do believe that men need to admit that pornography is cowardly. This is one thing that will help them get rid of it. No man wants to be a coward and pornography is cowardly. I hear men talk about how hard it is and give excuses. Your excuses are what keeps you there. Stop making excuses and believe what God says. You can do it with His power. Say it. Whenever you are tempted get down on your knees and pray till you are no longer tempted. Now isn’t that a hopeful thing to believe? And it’s true. To say anything less would be a lie.

  13. Porn is prison says:

    And by the way, I don’t live in prison. People shouldn’t assume so much. But I know how to get out of prison.

  14. Porn is prison says:

    Do you hate pornography? I do!! I hate it, I hate it, I hate it!!! It is vile! It is disgusting! It is a sin that destroys your mind and rips families apart! Lord bring your conviction! Bring Your purity! Bring Your hatred for this vile sin! In all of us men! All I have to say is AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!! I’m mad! At this demonic delusion in the church! We need to stamp this out, not coddle it! God loves all you men! Don’t let the devil use you like a dirty rag! he’s laughing at you when you fall. The Lord wants us to use His word like a warrior, and dethrone every devil that tries to keep us in bondage. Rise up and take your enemy down!

  15. Mark Hughes says:

    Methinks you doth protest too much! I don’t know who these church people are that are coddling pornography. I have spoken against it many times. Issac wrote about Overcomers in Christ. Craig Gross is giving his entire efforts to the cause and you rant and rail about the churches position on the subject.

    I have found that it is often the people who most critical about how little that is being done that are the most bound. We have often seen this among politicians that campaign against pornography and then get caught with a prostitute.

    Unfortunately, men don’t HATE pornography, they LOVE it. That is why it is such a bondage. Getting free from it requires human diligence and God’s grace. I have found we do not help those that are bound when we judge them for it. The thing I appreciate about Craig Gross is that he is trying to reach these people in love and not belittle them. Jesus was effective because on the one hand he never compromised the truth but on the other he offered unqualified mercy and acceptance. We all need a little grace.

  16. Bruno says:

    I remember when they had a small news segment dedicated to Gross a few years ago. Like many, my first reaction was how “fake” it had to be… but then, critically thinking “how then do you save a porn star, if the only place she goes to are pornography-related buildings?”

    Gross’ approach is still scary to me and I simply haven’t read enough to cast my vote but on the other hand, I don’t want to think that the porn actor is too deep into “evil” that he’s not worth taking a step in to reach for his hand. If his heart is in the right place, we’re just seeing a demonstration of the “step.”

  17. Porn is prison says:

    So be it.

  18. Porn is prison says:

    I find your last comment a little hypocritical. You say everyone needs a little grace and yet you offer me none for what you say is judging others.
    Buddy I’m judging myself for what I did in the past but I am free. Me thinks you doth not like being challenged.

  19. Porn is prison says:

    I’ll tell you who is coddling pornography. It is people who don’t want to get tough with themselves. They always leave that little area so that if anything goes wrong in their life they say I deserve to go back and fall into that crap again.
    I know there are some men who never look at the stuff. But, I used to go to a men’s group where everyone was screwed up. Everyone was always confessing stuff including me. Finally God showed me I needed to become solid and turn from all the sin that kept entrapping me. You know what? These guys turned on me. They think you’re great when you fall into the same old sins and are messed up like them, but when you actually turn from them and start challenging others, all of a sudden you are some religious fantic. Actually, you just want to see people get free but they hate you for it. The whole thing boggles my mind. I know what God has shown me is the truth because it is written in the Bible. And if I had stayed with the guys in that men’s group I would now be divorced.

  20. Porn is prison says:

    If I was looking at pornography like you and Isaac assume or picking up prostitutes, God forgive you, then my wife would hate me. She loves me very, very much.
    It makes me sad to hear you say such evil about me.

  21. Porn is prison says:

    My wife says she doesn’t have an ounce of respect for you anymore and she’ll never step foot in your church again.

  22. Bruno says:

    Gotta love how quickly internet message boards turn into… well internet message boards.

    Now, I’m not even going to say any of my point of view, but in fact, I’d like you to state yours in person. I mean, if for some reason your wife actually goes to Church of the Rock, and this article somehow negates Mark’s entire way of acting. The Christian way would at least be to comfront him once. I say “once” , because if the place is indeed poisonous then it’s true you shouldn’t dabble there. But everyone knows how unclear one’s motive is or how sentences can’t be misinterpreted on message boards. So, if your wife is as shocked as you say, then have walk straight to Mark and have her get a full heart on discussion with him and if she is still mad afterward, then she can leave forever.

    Do I make sense? It can be resumed in one sentence: you can’t judge someone based on the word-warping proxy that is the internet. If you seem to have that huge of a shock and loss of respect, then go face-to-face and have a real discussion.

    But don’t turn your back away, I think Mark carries a crowbar with him.

  23. Porn is prison says:

    He’d need it, believe me.
    I never said Church of the Rock was poisonous. Why does everyone put words in people’s mouths? But, you dis me without any knowledge and assume I’m some kind of prostitute picker upper, my wife just aint gonna like you. That’s a huge insult to her personally. And if Mark can’t apologise here he won’t do it there either. I wipe my hands of this. Peace out.

  24. Bruno says:

    Oh internet, always a great refuge for the ability to further in constructive discussions and not rash emotion outburst. I guess it’s hard to turn the other cheek when in front of a computer screen.

    I always find it intriguing when you know that online participants would behave differently in real life, but that probably has something to do with the proverbial bridge or feeding after midnight…

    Well, Pastor Mark are you going to go with “the best way to annoy someone is to keep praying for them?”

  25. Mark Hughes says:

    Ha Ha… Wow, talk about a case of; “You can dish it out but you can’t take it”.

    Anybody that actually knows me, knows I do not have any trouble apologizing or admitting when I am wrong. I am just not sure what I am supposed to be apologizing for.

    Unless Porn is Prison is actually a ‘politician campaigning against pornography and then was caught with a prostitute’ which he could be but I doubt it, (hard to know since I am the only one using my real identity here) then I am not even talking about him. Re-read the post, I never said he was picking up prostitutes.

    My point was and still is, that it is often the ones who protest the most that have the most to hide. If that is not the case then no harm no foul. But one should not go on the internet, pick a fight, and then be all hurt and offended if someone says something that rubs you the wrong way.

    Let’s get back on subject. This blog is about The Porn Pastor, not Mr. Porn is Prison or what his wife might think of me.

  26. Jake says:

    I also agree with Pastor Mark. Unusual feeling on this side of fence. But be it that, Porn Prisons position is distorted and unjust. His accusations are unfounded. There were no apparent accusations in this blog directed towards him. If he has an issue he flew to assumptions. Keep up the good work pastor.

  27. Porn is prison says:

    Well I guess you showed me :) God bless you crazy guys. No hard feelings. I’m feeling the love. Kinda like the Hustler dude when Jerry Fallwell took him to court. And that doesn’t mean I look at Hustler. It means I aint feeling the love any more than you are from me. Take care.

  28. Porn is prison says:

    Hey, I like being humbled. It’s bad for the ego but good for the soul. You just took a little more of myself out of me. Thanks.

  29. Porn is prison says:

    Just want to say, I never meant to disrespect church of the rock or you Pastor Mark. I don’t agree with the way xxx church does things but maybe I should’ve said things in a better manner. I’m not asking for grace or an apology. I just don’t want to be sinning by having a disrespectful attitude. Jesus I love you. I’m sorry for causing any discord. My bad.

  30. Mark Hughes says:

    P is P
    Like I said, no harm, no foul. Thanks for mixing it up a bit. And BTW there may not always be an apology… but there always is abundant grace for you.

  31. Porn is prison says:

    Even for my insatiable porn addiction? I’m kidding. But I could use some grace from people in my persona department. God bless. BTW my wife thinks you’re pretty funny.

  32. Porn is prison says:

    I just realised my persona is porn is prison. Sheesh. Scratch that…..personality department. That’s better.

  33. Hoy says:

    All these discussions remindered me of a story.

    A monk and his student find a woman on the edge of a stream. The woman is afraid to cross the stream, so she turns to them asking for help. The monk goes and carries her on his back across the stream. The student becomes angry because monks are supposed to keep their distance from women. Safe on the other side of the stream, the monk and his student go one way, and the woman goes the other way. Miles later, the student can’t hold his anger anymore. He rebukes his teacher. The monk turns to his student and says, “I saw someone who needed help, so I helped.” “I let her down back at the stream, but you, after so many miles, are still carrying her in your heart.”

  34. Jeff says:

    I have a friend who suffers from an addiction to internet porn…it has ruined his marriage. Divorce is on the way. His wife has moved away (with their two young children). They are both “Christian”. He was one of the best worship leaders I have ever worked with.

    My wife and I have had a hard time understanding how HE could choose his addiction over his wife & family?!?! They went through couples therapy the FIRST time they dealt with this and now since the separation, he has been going to an “Overcomers in Christ” group for council. But…he’s STILL doing “IT”!!!

    Maybe if he wasn’t a believer I would be able to understand this better. When you hear about a non-church guy oogling his collection of Playboys and watching garbage on the internet, you feel sorry for him making bad choices. But when it’s a brother in Christ…it seems so much more wrong!

    I am NOT a good counselor…I’m the first one to admit it! My approach is the “Slap & Shake”…first I slap you in the head and then you shake it until everything is back in the right place! This obviously doesn’t work.

    I have come to understand that my friend’s addiction to porn is no different than my one brother’s addiction to alcohal or my other brother’s addiction to gambling. Once it becomes an addiction, it physically changes your brain.

    I happened across an interview on the Drew Marshall show last year at the exact time we found out about my friend’s problem. The doctor’s name is William Struthers and his book is called “Wired For Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain”. Here’s a link to the audio – http://www.drewmarshall.ca/listen2010.html#100213.

    Regardless of what you think of Drew Marshall, this is very informative and I would suggest “sharing” a copy of the book with someone who is in need. Ironically…this was the Valentine’s edition of the show last year.

    On a final note…nothing is more sad from the porn industry than knowing that each of the participants thinks so lowly of themselves that they would subject themselves mentally and physically to that perverse abuse on a daily basis.

    It is said that sex for money is the oldest profession. That’s what the harlot is accused of before Jesus saved her from being stoned to death. He didn’t just save her life that day…He saved her life for eternity!

    Isn’t that what Pastor Craig is trying to do? His approach scares the hell out of me!But then…I wouldn’t volunteer to spend a night in the lion’s den or see how hot the furnace was with two of my friends either! To each his own…may God guide him in his ministry.

  35. Sally Young says:

    My heart goes out to your brother, Jeff, and his family because they have lost so much at the hands of the enemy. I pray that he (and your other brother who gambles) will be set free from their addictions and that his family would be restored to him. We do not give up hope for our loved ones, with the Lord there is always hope!

  36. Betty says:

    “LIVE IN THE TODAY ”
    Jesus lives in the now.
    Jesus said: ” I AM … “,
    He did not say: I was …, so do not let your mind dwell in the past and say,’ If Only ‘.
    Jesus did not say: I will be …, so do not worry about tomorrow and say: ‘ What if ‘.
    by Joseph Prince

    And to those, who have a spouse, that has the addictions of some kind, Please stay with your spouse, believe me, it is no picnic in the park, when the spouse or anyone in the family struggles, with addiction, but leaving?! It just makes matters worst.
    What happened to the promise, we made, when we got married?
    JESUS IS BIGGER & STRONGER, then our biggest problem.

  37. Steve says:

    The Lord can deliver anyone from any addiction. Not on their own strength, which would mean I think I’m better than someone else because I don’t do this or that. But by the power of God.
    Now we should not think this will not take any effort on our part, like reading our Bibles and putting the word of God into effect in our lives because that is part of having the power of God. His word is a double edged sword dividing bone from marrow. His word if we are obedient to it destroys the devil’s schemes in our lives and frees us from being slaves to sin. And because we have the Holy Spirit dwelling in us we have the power to obey His word and God has also given us the gift of faith so when we don’t feel God or sense His presence we can grab onto that faith and stand firm even when we are tempted the most.
    This doesn’t mean we are better, but it does mean we are able to defeat any temptation that the devil has set before us if we believe what God says. The Bible says there is no temptation that God has not provided us a way out of.
    Another incentive to fight temptation is the reason that Jesus said if a demon is cast out of us and we again fall into the same sin it will find many other demons more wicked than itself and come and live there making the person worse off than they were before. A good reason to stay clear of sin.

  38. Karen L says:

    Although I think that Craig Gross’ ministry is admirable, I also think that this guy is playing on the “slippery slope”. Although unlikely because he has prayer support, one day he may turn toward the very thing that he is ministering against. Porn is part of this guy’s life every single day. Would it be easy for him to walk away from it if God called him to minister somewhere else?

    Maybe, I’m all doom and gloom because I think that porn is so wrong on so many levels, and honestly, I didn’t even know that Craig Gross even existed until a few weeks ago, but this is one guy that needs prayer so that he doesn’t turn towards porn.

    Why is it that we are not recognizing that women also have an addiction to porn?

  39. Steve says:

    But if we fall into sin we can always get out of it. There is always grace. Nobody is too far gone. The love of Christ far surpasses any mess up of ours or any blunder. King David slept with another man’s wife and had her husband killed. He took the consequences for his sins and he kept believing in God. I just think it’s a heck of a better route to stay out the sin and then we don’t have to suffer the consequences of our own actions. I’m so glad Jesus died for our sins that we could be set free. His kindness leads us to repentance.

  40. will says:

    This ministry is like the one of the scenes from from the Lord of the Rings trilogy. The armies of Mordor are breaking the doors of the castle and those fighting against them decide to go out and battle those who are about to break in! Insteand of waiting for the battle to come, this ministry has decided to meet the enemy head on. Matter of fact, the battle is already in our homes, government, schools, etc.,sanctioned by the legislative process. So what are the righteous (in Christ) to do? Take the battle over the causeway and into the very heat and heart of the attack!

  41. Porn is prison says:

    I just want to set the record straight about something.
    I do not look at pornography Isaac. I do indulge in it. I do not have anything to do with it. I barely watch tv. But my problem has been watching Christians sweet talk their way around everything. Everybody is reading te latest Christian book to find out how they can serve God and hold onto things in their life at the same time. Well there’s one book(the Bible) that won’t let people do this. People read their self help books 10 times more than the Bible.
    Jesus came to set us free. Not kindof free. Not sort of free. Not a little bit free. Free! He who is set free is free indeed. The Bible sounds harsh in many ways. It doesn’t always seem edifying. But when we obey what God says we realise how edifying it was all along.

  42. Porn is prison says:

    I do not indulge in it that was supposed to read. This is getting absurd. I love it when words you type don’t come onto the screen.

  43. Missy says:

    It’s funny I haven’t been on this site for a long time…

    I got married in June to my partner of 13 years,and I had only a couple of councelling sessions as we didn’t have time before the wedding.

    -My partner looks at porn almost every evening.

    Finally I started to throw it out-as a Christian I am suppossed to admonish sin.

    So everything I find,I chuck in the garbage.

    Our sex life has totally suffered,he appears not too interested in me,even though I am a real person….for a while I thought maybe he is gay….but I think it’s porn creep.

    What do you suggest I do?

    I cannot tell my pastor about this illness he has,or he will never go to my church again! :0

  44. Betty says:

    “Congratulations”, Missy!
    On your wedding day in June.

    I will share this experience, I had, a few weeks ago, which has helped me in a very powerful way.
    For a few weeks, I felt like a dead person walking around,[ with no feelings and my concentration on things, was very poor.]
    My husband had this very negative attitude, which brought me down very low, in every way.
    One night, I prayed, JESUS IN YOUR POWERFUL NAME, Satan get out of this house, you do not belong in here and Jesus take me out of this Hell hole now.
    JESUS I PRAISE YOU,for instantly taking away that very dark and heavy cloud, then the atmosphere in our house changed, big time.
    We not only had beautiful sunshine outside, that morning, there was also sunshine in our house and life, again.
    Because Jesus loves our neighbor first, we can love them also.

  45. Porn is prison says:

    Now please don’t get touchy with me again folks about the self help books. All I was saying is a self help book is not the Bible and much of what is written in many books is somebodies own ideas.
    Applying the Bible and taking God at His word works. Why? Because God loves His church so much! God loves His church so much! He loves you! He loves you! He doesn’t want anymore suffering!

  46. Porn is prison says:

    Grace! We all need grace! Lord I know how You hate sin. I know You hate seeing Your people trapped in it. But God, You are a God of Grace. Many are weak. Many need encouragement. Lord forgive me if I have been a discouragement in any way to anyone that truly needs help. I do not want to judge because I was once full of sin. I once needed help but no one came. Now that You have built me up I do not want to tear anyone down. Forgive me Father if I have failed You in this way Oh Lord!

  47. Jusuf says:

    I trust that Pastor Craig Gross ministry is unique and is called for people who have been trapped in porn situation. Without strong prayer support, he also could fall into this issue.
    I think pornography is also related to the increase in divorce rate world-wide. Once a husband or a wife comparing his/her spouse with other person in nude, there’s a weed that can grow to destroy husband and wife relationship.
    May be this is one of many example of “the latest becomes the first and the first becomes the last in the Kingdom of God”

  48. Isaac says:

    Not sure if anyone is reading this still. Hopefully the people who’ve commented will check back.

    Karen L. Yeah, for the most part most people think of porn as only a man’s problem. But all the stats, and my own observations point that while it still is much more a problem with men, it is a problem for a smaller amount of women. One survey said that about 70% of men struggle while 23% of women struggle. None of the survey stats can be totally trusted because we don’t know exactly how the questions were defined, but there certainly are women in the problem. And if men think it’s hard to find someone to admit this to and get help, it’s twice as hard for a woman.

    Missy: You are suffering in a way that many women are but haven’t admitted to anyone. I’m so sorry for your pain. I’ve caused that same pain myself, and I regret it immensely.

    My main advice would be to start with addressing your own heart. Draw close to Christ. Let Him tell you how beautiful you are to Him, how He cherishes you, and values you intimately. Also, as hard as it is for women to understand, realize that his porn usage has nothing to do with your looks. Really. Lusting is similar to greed, as long as you allow it to rein in your life, it will never be satisfied. The luster will always want more, more, more. If a person is deep in the lusting, it doesn’t matter what you look like, or what you do for him sexually, he will constantly hunger, until he starts dealing with the lusting honestly with Christ. Think about Tiger Woods; he was married to a model, but had affairs with women who were much less attractive. You can’t think that if you only looked better or whatever, he would stop. You are in no way responsible for his addiction. Even if he tries to somehow blame you, that’s a cover and it’s selfish.

    The next advice would be to pray that God confronts him on it. I only started into recovery after being confronted by God and my girlfriend. It’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Remember, most people don’t change when they see the light, they change when they feel the heat. Also, if he’s not saved, that is an absolute must. You need to tell him, and show him with your life, the good news of Jesus. And certainly pray about it, but you need to let your husband know that the porn is simply not acceptable to you, and it is clearly not acceptable to God. But remember to show him grace and mercy. Remember that Christ has shown you immense mercy. If you could come to him with an attitude of “how can I help you?” you will do much better, then anger. But by helping this means setting up porn blockers on his computer or something like that. Not giving in to some selfish request he would make. Respect your husband the way the Bible instructs, but refuse to accept the porn. It is not how Christ wants either of you to live. Remember too that for husband, at this point it might not feel like something he is just “having fun” with, but it sounds like he’s completely addicted and he feels compelled to use, almost like it’s painful if he doesn’t. Porn use is horribly selfish, yet usually deeper issues need to be addressed to get completely free. It’s not as simply as just stopping. Even if he truly loves you really deeply, he still will struggle. Even if he actively pursued recovery, there is still a time period of getting free. I was in recovery more that six months before I stopped completely looking at porn, and another year before I stopped some stumbling with TV etc. He will need to retrain his brain.

    Well I hope you guys are still checking this blog. Christ has healed me, he can heal anyone. We need His power!

  49. Isaac says:

    Missy: I forgot to mention too, that if you cannot go to your pastor or leader at Church, there are many other groups available. I don’t know where you live, or if you’re part of CotR, but we have a group, Overcomer’s in Christ. There is also other ministries; Finding Freedom, Overcomer’s Ministry, Living Waters Ministry. Look these up, if you’re husband won’t go to any of these, you could to learn about the problem, but also to get healing yourself for the pain you’ve suffered. I can’t say more strongly that this is a battle that cannot be won individually, we need to fight it together. You need help, as does your husband to get victory over this.

  50. Porn is prison says:

    God bless you Isaac. You sound like a good guy. I’m glad the Lord delivered you. That is AWESOME! (:

  51. Betty says:

    Well done and amen to that, Isaac!

  52. Porn is prison says:

    I can tell I’ve irritated alot of people on this blog by some of the things I’ve said. Call it a hunch. But I’d like to say that there are people out there who need tons of grace and there are people out there who are abusing God’s grace and think they can pull the wool over the eyes of God. Just to make it clear, my earlier comments about being a coward and such were to the guys out there who think it’s ok to abuse the grace of God. I really don’t care if people are upset about that. The point is, what is God upset about and do we care about that?:) God bless y’all.

  53. Porn is prison says:

    For some reason, God doesn’t want me to call anyone a coward. I apologise for that. He loves everyone not wanting anyone to perish. His ways are not my ways. He is filled with love and kindness. He has perfect love. The truth without love is just a resounding gong))))! I believe that Craig is doing what Jesus would have done loving pornstars. I just think Jesus would have done it differently.
    Lord let Your love reign down. This is what truly leads us to repentance. God bless my brothers. I love you all.

  54. calvin says:

    Thanks for posting Mark. I saw you and Craig in Edmonton on the PK night. Its been helpful knowing this issue gets addressed head on at the conferences he goes to, a talent i certainly do not have. Bless him for leading people to Christ in a place where everyone thought he wouldn’t be at. I also learned just the other day it was Eugene Peterson who assisted on the new testament-Jesus loves porn stars. When he was first asked if he would, he was stunned and silent for about 15 seconds. Then he responded with yes, of course i will do that, of course Jesus loves them.

  55. Jesus loves says:

    Jesus loves Porn stars
    Jesus loves rapists
    Jesus loves child molesters
    Jesus loves murderers
    jesus loves wife beaters
    Jesus loves the poor
    Jesus loves gang members
    Jesus loves theives
    Jesus loves muggers
    Jesus loves the destitute
    Jesus loves the broken

  56. Porn is prison says:

    I have not fallen away from Christ but I have fallen away from His grace out of anger towards Christians for injustices I’ve witnessed over the years of being a Christian.
    I want to say how awesome I feel right now because Jesus doesn’t expect us to impress Him. He expects us to have Him in us. He wants our love for Him not our love for His rules. I have been an idiot in this sense and I repent of my stupidity. I love Jesus so freakin much!!!!

  57. the pink cross is an organization that is founded by an ex-porn star Shelley Lubbin. She helps porn stars escape the business. It might be useful for you to add to your info as it reveals the true side of victims who get pulled into this horrible atmosphere. They are hurting people. It isn’t glamourous like it is presented to be and might make porn less palatable when you read real stories behind all the fake acting. Check it out, please. God bless

  58. Renata says:

    My fiance smokes, and feels (is) condemned by others for it, then sometimes smokes more. If he quit smoking tomorrow, I would not love him any more(note the important gap; NOT:anymore).

  59. Evelyn Bennett says:

    Around the time this blog was written I came across a man who was in denial about having a problem with porn consumption. Even his own family suspected.

    This man also claimed his belief in God.

    Isn’t it funny that faith will not save us unless we can come to grips with our own sin.

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